He never did any of that to me and to me he was a good dad. No five year old is just going to Say Mommy my aunty makes me play mommy and daddy. It was purple and red, so I asked if she had a hard poop and she said no, Daddy hurt it. @Jamie, get a life. I also knew sex was a secret kept between mommies and daddies, so I may not have told her, either, due to the fear of getting beat, again. Then she began to brake down and cry. My little girl is 8 monyhs old she still doesnt care for dady n looks at me like please dont leave ahes stated crying when i change her he stuff dont look like am i cc'd raxy but dont u think its all signs i should chexk out especially when he (accidentally puts his mb hand on her booba shes just mot comfortable n she loves everyone. (To be considered sexual abuse by the organization, an incident must include physical contact.). No letter, no email, no phone call, no text and no more visits.um ok? If that's one thing a violator does they scare the abused child by saying that if they tell, they'll endanger themselves or a family member. She says that she was scared to get in trouble and she was scared of him. It is a heavy burden for a tot to carry, and it has taken me forty-five years to actually come to a place I am willing to remember what happened and attempt to heal. He dipped me back on the bed and try to insert his fingers into my private. I will pray for all of you. will not help you well this A.P.S. He threatned me that if he heard me ever mention another word of abuse, my custody and my child would be taken away from me. I should not allow a step child to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. Take her to the doc to make sure she wasnt molested. My brother was stunned!! Parents may have trouble distinguishing between typical sexual exploration and something more troubling. DO NOT REPORT TO ALLIGATIONS TO POLICE unless theres physical evidence of the abuse!! "Not only 'Don't do this,' but 'Here's why.' An affectionate parent can pat, physically play with, and wrestle with a child in ways that are simply off-limits with an adolescent. Nannie, it is not normal. And she just kinda left the thought alone . I do not know if it's any type of abuse or what.just wondering if anyone has any ideas/comments. We're very, very clear about this, but I also want to be clear that 10-year-olds are not the same as 35-year-old adults. Then I ask her why she hasnt ever told me about this. I called the police and everything. My dad would ask me to make him some coffee. A child who has unexplained blood in their underwear or who complains about pain when sitting may also be a victim of inappropriate touching. 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Google is just a click away! What do I do if my grandfather and mother are hitting me shoving me and my grandfather alsomost broke my fingers by bending them backwards and wouldnt stop? By this point Im sick to my stomach by this. And everybody in the family was just worried because their females . One time he was laying down on the ground and she ran ovwr and sat on his hand and he pulled it away. My husband is being investigated because my daughter said she had sex with him. I need to know the truth but she doesn't trust me, even after I told her if it did happen its not her fault. He is now 4. He has been licking on me and pappie . No maam . S services r involved. I have a 6 year old daughter. That way, your child knows it's also your job to protect them. and C.P.S. She is very spoiled ( which most children are these days), but will throw a terrible tantrum if she doesn't get her way. Your daughters that are learning shit like this from an older person isnt learning how to do it to other kids and it isnt not cool ! I feel calmer and more in control afterwards. Divorce if you have to or send the kid away to live with someone you trust like your mother until you can finalize the divorce. Constantly reinforce the idea that their body is their own, and they can protect it. In washington grandparents have no rights. I keep him from my son and daughter but I can not erase the memories of the pain he has caused them. I've been sexually abused so maybe I'm over thinking. He is a 13 year veteran of the Los Angeles Police Department, currently assigned to the Los Angeles Police Department's Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force (ICAC). As long as people can understand what you're trying to say. So the first thing to do is to separate the child from the abuser, and to ensure there is no further communication between the abuser and the child. I am at a loss of what to do. Shame on you, who cares if words are Miss spelled. All of these signs of child molestation is very important an I talk to my cousins about it sometimes an it helps so thank you . This is where it can get tricky because every state has mandatory reporting laws, and in some states that includes child-on-child sexual interaction. I remember being taken to a neighbor's house and even recalled some of the furnishings that were upstairs in the bedroom. He told me that the boy would force him to touch him or look at his gentials or he would touch him and want to look at him. Professional crisis counselors are there 24/7 to provide assistance in over 170 languages. In my case, the abuser got custody of my abused children because of my ignorance in legal matters. I love her daycare but today I think the man that works the other part of the daycare was on her side of the building today. There have been times I have picked her up and when saying goodbye to my daughter . I has small to well nothing else. I always assumed they were just having an adult conversation. Oddly enough, when I was 30, (I'm 70 now) I wrote a letter to my father explaining how I remember him doing "funny" things to me when I was 2 or 3 years old. "People don't get it," she says. She REFUSES To believe her daughter . Let them know you love them. "If you are in a confusing area, call Darkness to Light or speak to a professional. I am not sure if any of this means anything or not, I just know I would never allow my child to behave in this way, and I know it is not my place but there is something going on with this child. My husband . Kk follow your instinct as a mother. Many years of her complaing her privates hurt and i tell her mother that something is "Wrong"seriously WRONG. My brother received a letter from his adult daughter (she's 31) accusing him of sexually molesting her when she was a child. Compartilhar isto . However, I still believe whole heartedly the abuse took place. Two extremely different people. It's an issue that is largely ignored, and parents whose children are involved often struggle to find support. It all sounded very sweet and innocent in the start but now he's in . "You can tell your child that if someone puts their hand under your shirt or in your pants, that is unsafe." Give them a strategy. Her hymen was intact but there was white gunk on the inside of her vagina area. If anyone has any info what i can do please please respond i want mt daughter to grow up happy with a healthy mentality. Get help and you and your husband should be the only adults around him. It is NEVER OK for anyone to touch you without your permission. And that's why she showed me where to stand in the bathroom so no one (dad) would see us naked from the window. I heard them doing it but i didn't know what they were doing before. I'm really worried about my 6 year old son's on-going behaviour. I want to tell my mom but I dont want to hurt her and brake her heart. Ugh he said it was a mistake he thought it was me. If your child discloses that she has been sexually abused or has received an inappropriate touch. An example would be with the words, "knew"and "new," as well as "know" and "no." #3) Okay so today I walk into her room and she had ken and barbie in bed with ken on top. Additionally, being subjected to pornography or forced to take nude photographs is child sexual abuse, as is oral and anal sex. Use the words you and your child usually use to describe parts of the body that aren't supposed to be touched by other people . they took my daughter to the hospital and said they couldn't find any dna and that due to her being in the shower their was no way of telling. Her response, how else do you get it out? I was stunned. Here's what you can do: Discuss with your son what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior, especially concerning touching others. I tried telling the child abuse center/ Unit things multiple times and they refused to believe me because my son's father told them that I had the same suspicions about my daughter's father and that I am crazy. Now all if a sudden my daughter has mentioned to a soc worker I've done something that I know is not true. With my son which is 3 my boyfriend n my mom .we walk in and the step dad is on the game like a child smoking weed im like ok really ! The DHS wrote it off to I didn't like the Daddy. This content is accurate and true to the best of the authors knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional. Then it all bow up! i have been molested by three men when i was little. I asked him about it and he said said he doesnt know what the word gay mean and he said that sex means when people lay on top of each other. My issue is I do not know if I am overreacting oris she showing signs of being molested. is this because the men who molested me, was white men, and see the resemblance with all white men? When going to court with no evidence to back up my allegations, the judge was mad. My daughter's father always likes to shower with her and I caught him exposing himself to her when he thought I was out smoking a cigarette. This could be stroking, cuddling, hugging, kisses, pulling his peers clothes. I'm not mad that the son may be gay, I'm upset because the father hasn't address good touch and bad touch with the boys. I feel sick every time i think about it, i can recall times when they'd be very whispery in her bedroom together and there has been times where id wake up in the night and see them chatting very secretively. This is a problem that we don't discuss enough and it's everywhere. Not trying to go into the full story since its a lot to write. By the way it is "spelled" and not "spelt". If they are saying something to you believe it. The hardest part of it all may be containing your own emotions, but you must. It brings new problems of mental illness, promiscuity and suicide. If his/her private area looks weird; report it. My daughter has not seen him since 8/ 2016. There has to be evidence like the detective said. Who is protecting our children when parents fight for there children and the law goes against the parent who is not the offender. If they are acting like they don't want to be left alone with that person even if they are a baby; do not leave them alone. He admitted it to the DCF and pointed out the guy in a picture.He had a specialist interview him but he never told them anything. It is extremely important to hold yourself in check. My five year old came to me one day and told me that her aunt has been molesting her. Inappropriate touching falls into two categories: Touching that is sexual in nature: This is unsolicited or unwanted touching that involves a person's genitals, buttocks or private parts. We have gaurdianship of our grandson have for almost 8 months and 0 contact from the mother since January (court ordered not to) about a month ago a little more he said that his mommy and the boyfriend were touching his peepee, when asked he made a jerking off motion and then rubbing motion and continuus to have complete anxiety about taking a bath. But that's the confusing reality of abuse: Abusers don't hit you or berate you on day one. I'm 21 years old now and it all still relays in my head from time to time, I even harmed myself because of it and wished that it never happened, I hated playing hide and go seek in the dark with him because he'd always find me and do what he wanted, he even covered my mouth so that my screams couldn't carry throughout the house and I just hate him so much for screwing up my life and having me to hate my own life. Engaging in any of the above sexual behavior more than occasionally. I was molested as a child 3 times and i said i wouldn't ever leave my kids anywhere and my sons father agreed but now he's changed and being selfish so i have no choice but to start working or stay starving. I just want him to get help and I dont know what to do. They don't help people, especially children! Nevertheless, as a reader, I am not able to take the writer and his/her potential knowledge on the issue seriously when there are grammatical errors, amongst other writing mistakes. We have to feel our way around sometimes without really knowing how to handle certain situations. my seven year old boy told me his father would flip him over pinch his butt bite his penis and said to him if he told someone he was going to kill him or his mom. "We really don't put anything into prevention, and that's really unfortunate," Letourneau says. I became distant to my family after i learned that what they did was disgusting. They have a newborn . There were plenty more, such as run on sentences and lack of punctuation. I want stand by and watch my cousins keep getting abused .he gotta away with it with my older cousin and she isnt away n Georgia n doesnt want to come back n her mom wonders why ?? took me years to talk about it. "They're" is considered a contraction. People are hurting and are using this forum to cope and try to heal from their ordeal while you ignorantly attempt to correct their grammar. A.P.S. 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