When would be a good time to come by to get the cable box and belongings? Like were best friends and no time is a good time in my book. Hes above the law and honestly theres no justice when dealing with these mental idiots. Unfriend & unfollw him on all social media. We analyze to death just to understand. Dont beat yourself up too badly about having to start over. Im still on the roller coaster of emotion but at least i know the ride has to end eventually. I also have a special needs child and my ex is telling her that i am an alcoholic which of course is not true, but see similarities, so she thinks she needs to protect him because she is fighting her demons and he has triangulated her, the perfect target, she can try attack me which comes from her issues and he gets off on that. Here are three tricks that the abuser will try: 1. I came across this at a time where I so desperately needed it. When he was leaving me, i asked him what he wanted to do with the brand new freezer hed bought me to replace mine that quit two months prior and he told me to keep it. You will kick yourself for thinking his presence will make you happy. Matt, I obviously dont know you personally but I can guarantee you one thingI WOULD NEVER TREAT YOU LIKE THAT. This woman you dated is pure slime. I told to myself by Reading all those storys here i will never let him get to me like that and now he haves his way again. He asked about the equipment and we definately didnt talk about anything personal. I would say the attention and looks were the main thing that drew me in, but really it was a very similar sense of humor and articulate manner of speaking. . Lilli, I am just now able to read your comment. If they say how are you? Do not reply good nothing no contact. I would still like to offer friendship (as I tried for one month), but know thats a one-sided street and really not fair to people I date. Victims often believe that when the narcissist comes back after months, its because theyre in love. That brokenness that we originally recognized is still there and it is just not fixable by mankind. One of the things theyll do is use verbal trickery to convince you theyre not the same person. Cause I relised his nana health situation was often used as excuse yes cheating. Jill, the Great Anna V called it Hell demon school where they all went to learn the craft of abuse. Rod thanks for your input. Wow this letter sounds like my soon to be X, Kevin! Congrats on ur joirney to recovery, Your email address will not be published. Some things cannot be faked. A snake. You pre-emp. I also recognize the peace I feel would not be if we were anything more than what we are. Why all those lies in the shop?. What I know is that narcissism really exists on a spectrum, although its easier and useful to think of narcissism as categories of individuals. She just could never specifically mention what she was apologizing for. Best of luck in your recovery and with maintaining No Contact. Idolized for a period of a few weeks. When i came home after two days. Ok nw i feel miserable and have to take myself up. Once a strong vivacious Women, now stricken-ed with various illness after being pressed under the thumb for so longI didnt figure it out until he had already stolen so much. Stay strong. Also, my thought was, if he was so desperate to get the equipment and he knew i was ignoring him, why didnt he send me a registered letter, put a note on my door or car (which by the way, was parked in front of my house the day he knocked on my landladys door) or send the sheriff to my house with a court order? Where do i stand when i let him still in my heart and in my life? I really thought he had gone, truly truly thought he had gone. Why you put up with it all. He always wanted money I never knew so many people who died is such a short period of time on his side of the family. He said there is no woman like me, he loved only me couldnt imagion to be with some one els and everything from the love movies. Get Zari's Book - Change Your Life. Youve left some very useful advice here. Thats why EVERYONE gets a bottle of No Contact at the door. So we might all be HURTING REAL BAD right now but as much as it hurts & oh boy does it hurt & each & every one of you out there will know exactly what that feels like, I personally would rather be me & hurt this much than be like one of them !!.. I go to the park next to my house in the morning before work to relax. Dont reconnect..another power game to just see if u will even think about it or respondhe is toxicrun.. the things that are happening to me after this are interesting, I remember when I went no contact it was strange in a similar way, I actually perversly missed the abuse !! Looking back at my relationship with the N, I realized there were red flags from the beginning. He is gone. Specifically, Narcs cannot have intimate bonds of friendship. Hes like yah last few weeks Ive fantasized about it. Funny enough, that story I truly do not believe period. And that i better look for an other man because he cant make me happy. I think its a mistake to reconnect. It seems they always win! This is not a means for them to get back to you at all. This is when she got her hooks in me. Sometimes I get sad out of nowhere, sometimes I get pissed. Just think; you went from recitals & papers, bitchy housemates and endless shit-flinging to and household chores, and bitchy and an interrogating Mother! He looked hurt but Im glad I was able to say that to him because it provided closure for me. 3. Reading your comment was as if I had written it myself. They may even have tried to use manipulative techniques to keep us in the relationship, such as threatening to hurt themselves or to hurt us. {{HUGS}}, I have been with a narc or sociopath, I am still learning the subtlety of personality disorders. Trust me. Im afraid of being utterly disappointed and having to start back from square one, so I do nothing. D and coping with leaving a sociopath husband. So why the happy birthday text, then now when he saw me looking sexy, he has no communication? He told me that I should message her. A narcissist will never allow you to escape, let alone figure them out. Because narcissists only connect with people who provide narcissistic supply. Now if I contact her for 6 months I go to jail! Wow. He started working wit friends in a MLM type setting which would take him to shows and took him to Sturgis, I later found out the woman he complained of the whole entire trip stayed with him and 2 others in a trailer, her clothing consisted of ass-less chaps and artistic paint for her breasts. Not me. My no contact has lasted as long as 2 years. Because the child in your heart Always excist. I even miss him (the fake him) sometimes too. I cant thank God enough for helping me find the way out of the darkness. Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, 7 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back - Kim Saeed: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Personal Growth, Vanilla Sky Unreality with the Narcissist - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, 7 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, Does the Narcissist Miss You After No Contact? Interesting. All it took was silence. So if your narcissistic ex-partner calls threatening to take their life, theyre more than likely pulling your bluff in hopes that youll feel so sorry for them and be so worried that theyll actually do it, you come running back. As mentioned, narcissists only get involved in a relationship if theres narcissistic supply available, if not, theyre not interested. He seemed to need to be perceived as perfect in my eyes. IF its true, and that is a BIG IF, she may just stroke his emotional ego sooo much that he doesnt care. He says hes happy with the new girl and wants to remain that way. If my mother had not walked in, what would have become of us? I dont believe I have a great future and ith leins o my house bcuz he wouldnt work and I wasbdisqbled. I loved him beyond belief. Always playing the victim card. Think about it, we still Love them, even after everything awful & unforgivable that they have ever said & done to us, we still can & do Love them. And he obviously does it daily because he sees each one I post . Time flies when you get real busy and a good four week vacation will fill your head with so many positive moments go enjoy life. They only target good, honest, decent, strong, sucessful, happy, Loving people with everything going for them. One and only. My N admitted he cheated on his wife the whole time he was with her. Thankfully my friends noticed her awkward behavior and helped me put the puzzle together. I have had no one he was my mom dad bestfriend uncle grandparent I never had. I had been convinced that so many things I saw, felt, or perceived were in my head, or, [me] digging for answers instead of leaving things alone. Odd, isnt it? Jill, hate is a very strong emotion. Three weeks ago, we had a huge fight, which turned physical. You should text or call him once you have a good reason to do it. A few days ago he blocked me againthe fourth or fifth time. I doubt it seriously, but thanks for the input. Acting as if the world revolves only around them. Just like in your situation, I was blamed everything she did to me. Little old lady sweet talked the Lawyer. He believes that I should return his devotion because in his mind he has never tried so hard with anyone. I was blocked on her facebook Does anyone have any tips on getting over a narcissistic ex? Like I said I dont have prove yet and dont want to ask him, just for my sanity I was wondering If they do stuff like this? They wont ever leave if we do. This explains why they shift into turbo gear when you implement No Contact. You know what hell she put me through. She did not lash out in extremely mean ways, or ever cut herself (from what I am aware of) but everything else screams BPD. I enjoyed her ways and I know it sounds insane but I could just sit and listen to her talk and watch her eat. I was always the one who would make first contact. -Kristen. I hope to share my story one day.. Keep up the good work! 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